Monday, September 6, 2010

Complacency Kills...

Definition of COMPLACENCY:
–noun, plural -cies.
---a feeling of quiet pleasure or security, often while unaware of some potential danger, defect, or the like; self-satisfaction or smug satisfaction with an existing situation, condition, etc.

Have you ever thought that you might be at a point of complacency in your life? I have heard the word used often. I've even used it myself. But have you ever really thought about it? This morning as I was doing my reading and quiet time, I started to really think about this word. I decided to look it up.
I basically thought of it as being a feeling of not really caring one way or another about something or maybe just letting yourself get in a rut about things...but this definition actually startled me. WOW.
Feeling secure while unaware of some potential danger?? Hmmm...that makes it more serious.
I decided to look up the word rut. This is what I found:
rut1    /rʌt/
,noun, verb, rut·ted, rut·ting.
3. a fixed or established mode of procedure or course of life, usually dull or unpromising: to fall into a rut.

WOW you see the part about being fixed in a course of life that is usually dull...but more seriously...UNPROMISING?

I don't want to be complacent. I don't want to be in a rut. Listen people! I'm not just talking about someone who is stuck in the 80's and can't get rid of their hair scrunchees and MC Hammer pants. I'm thinking about living our life in a way that is potentially dangerous or unpromising!!

I know that my blog is all over the place. I've got recipes, crafts, family life, spiritual applications, weight loss, etc. but all of that is me. I am an ever changing person. I want to change for the better. I want to be teachable.
I am done with people who have "arrived". They like to live and believe a certain way and they stay right there and nobody is going to budge them, yet half of them can't tell you why they do what they do or why they believe what they believe.
It's sad really. These last 4 years have really been an eye opener to me. I have learned that for a big part of my adult life, I was living a complacent life. Just going along. Believing what anyone said. Never questioning things that I didn't feel were "right". Gaining weight by the minute. Doing things the same way, day in and day out...even if I knew that the end result was not what I wanted. The only thing that was changing regularly was my hair color! haha
Well, I finally snapped out of it. I realized that if I wanted to really have a relationship with my husband and my children, I was going to have to work at it. I was going to have to be the one to communicate and make a difference for them. I knew that my spiritual life was stagnant. I was always busy working in the church or ministry...but how was my heart - how was my walk with my God?
Listen. I am not saying that things need to change all the time. I am saying that if you have been doing things just for the sake of doing them - you might need to stop and ask yourself, "WHY?" Maybe you've been doing things a certain way and you feel like you could get better results by doing it differently - why don't you try it and see?
If you have been working yourself silly in church and you rarely see your family, you can't remember the last time you had a real heart to heart talk with God, you can't remember the last time you just sat at His feet and worshipped Him...what's holding you back from starting now?
It's scary to change. It's scary to step out in faith, but if you don't, you will be in a rut.
Have you heard of great marriages going down the drain because they let themselves get in a rut? They let their relationship get stagnant?
Are you gaining weight faster than you realize because you just keep wearing the same ole stretchy t-shirt and burger pants? You can start to change that now.
What happens to water that just sits? It starts to breed all kinds of bacteria, gets a stink on it, attracts mosquitos...just nasty.
Complacency kills. You just get all rusty dusty and it doesn't even bother you until you're spiritually, physically or emotionally just dead.
The Bible talks about being complacent in Isaiah 32. He talks about being "at ease" when we should not be.
What is it that you have been complacent about? Your relationship with your spouse? Your relationship with Christ? Your spiritual journey? Your job? Your weight? Your home? Your education?
You can keep this practical...or you can go as deep as you want. Whatever you do, remember that Complacency Kills.


Lauren Walker said...

Thank you for posting this, Ms. Sherry! I really appreciate your admonition to evaluate WHY we're running around in church or ministry functions...and I'm glad you said that it doesn't mean we need to stope doing things necessarily...but it does mean that we need to check our motives . . .or just open up to the LORD and ask Him to search us and know us and see if there's something wicked or stagnant or sinful in our ways. Amen, sistah-girl! Amen!

Anonymous said...

I am also trying to change become more spiritual and the person God wants me to be. I've been doing this for 9 months and I have seen big changes. Although I still have a long ways to go...I know I will get there in time.

Baby Steps...that's all you can do.

Cathy said...

What a beautiful and thought provoking post. I know I have been thinking so much about my life and how I have lived it since I first got my cancer diagnosis. I feel confident in the Lord that I will be fully healed, but I also feel like this cancer was His way of speaking to me and making me realize that I need to do more with my life, be more than I am now or have ever been. I have been complacent, I realize, for many, many years. Thank you for writing such a thought provoking post that came to me at just the right time in my life. I know I have a long road ahead and changing the way I go about life will not be easy, but it is something I now realize I have to do. I HAVE to live everyday with purpose and a destination in mind.

What a beautiful, thought provoking post!

Vivian said...

I completely understand! Thanks for posting this because I needed the reminder. We're struggling with our oldest and I recently realized it's because our family got complacent. We have started making changes, but not just as a family because I am changing too. It's not easy, but it's so worth it.

Traci said...

It's scary to say it but a person's walk with the Lord is such an easy place to become complacent. As one who has been forced to stay home for weeks now and missed church, I personally feel the difference in my relationship with God when I don't get that time to actively worship every Sunday, to sing his praises, to pray with friends or to just enjoy fellowship. When that is missing from my life I have to remind myself to actively seek Him even more often because otherwise a tiny crack turns into a gaping valley between myself and my Lord.

It happens so slowly it's often hard to see it happening... great post!